Philosophy of sex (Part 4 of 4)

Posted on September 19, 2011 by Sandy| Comments Off

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A human being passes through many stages in life as I mentioned in my earlier articles of philosophy of sex. There are many possible branching at every step in the life. Two people cannot be exactly same in every aspect. But for successful relationship the requirement is higher compatibility. Greater the compatibility, shorter will be distance. Shorter the distance, stronger will be love. Stronger the love, greater will be sexual fulfillment. Greater the sexual fulfillment, happier will be the person. Happier the person is, more he/she loves the partner. Again it recycles as follow

Relationship between Love, sexual fulfillment and Happyness

Nobody will tell you that who is compatible for you? Nobody!!! Even if someone is willing to help you they cannot do much as nobody knows you better than yourself. So try to explore the world, try to understand the world. Larger the circle of probable candidates more will be your options. Try to interact with lots of people. Try to spend time together. And golden rule for any beginner and trained person is same – ask, ask and ask. If you don’t ask, you will never know. Ask orally, ask visually; and you will get the answer. If even after lots of effort (oral and visual) to know compatibility you are unable to get anything then either your communication power is not good or she doesn’t like to be explored at least by you (prejudice). If you are able to communicate (orally and visually) then next you can decide and select best out of those tested candidates.

So guys, all the best for your relationships.

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Philosophy of sex (Part 3 of 4)

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If two individual love each other and want to have sex, then first point come in their mind is fear (fear of society and fear of family). They feel that his is wrong at the moment according to the society. And next question is what will happen if somebody other than us knows about our intimacy?

Next decision is governed by intensity of sexual urge and self control. If sexual urge is stronger than self control then it results in sexual encounter. No matter, society likes this or not. If self control is stronger than sexual urge then planning for marriage come in mind. Marriage is nothing but society license to do everything with your loved one. Marriage is asked after sex even in first case. If marriage is denied/ opposed by any of them; it results in “break up”. False consent results in few more sex before “break up” in first case and delayed “break up” in second case.

Break up can results in either unwillingness for opposite sex partner or fresh search. Psychological help is needed in first case. Search for new partner is different this time. Now she/he has a parameter/ standard to compare with. She/ he will compare everything about the new partner with their old partner. Except this difference everything is repeated again and has same consequences. Story repeated again and again till compatibility matches and till results in marriage.

If sexual urge is very high in girls or boys then they may encounter much sex with different partner before getting fixed with someone. The only explanation for person with such mentality is that sex always results in enjoyment and pleasure if you really want. Having sex doesn’t mean you are fulfilled. An emotional touch along with physical attachment is must for sexual fulfillment. Even any of the two partner not giving their 100% efforts then enjoyment cannot be 100%.

Unless a lady/ guy has emotional attachment their relationship (particularly sex) will not ends long. No matters howsoever beautiful or handsome a girl or boy might be. Attraction starts decreasing by seeing and doing same thing again and again. Desire for variety arises. Again search begins. This is the beginning of extra-marital affairs. Motto here is again same – sexual desire and need for emotional attachment. Financial condition of husband/ wife matters here. If some better mate found, divorce is must. Divorce can result even without getting any new partner if sexual dis-satisfaction and emotional detachment is strong.

Search may starts soon after the divorce. But mind of person along all these stages of life are different. Their maturity level is different. Their thinking is different. Their need is different. Only reason for compromise in unsatisfied relationship is money and fear of future of child. In western countries money doesn’t matter, both have enough money. Also both people can easily take care of child because of money and status. So divorce rate is very high there.

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Philosophy of sex (Part 2 of 4)

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Society can stop you from having sex in public but you are free to do anything whenever alone. As you need some secret space to fulfill your desire; the first things come in mind is that this things is not right. Otherwise why everybody is stopping him/ her? Now next question is whether her/ his selected partner also thinks this is wrong. This question acts as bridge for communication. Answer can be yes or no. both starts exploring the possibilities. If someone is talking with you positively it does not mean that she/ he will like to have sex. So efforts continue. This is the beginning of the concept of boyfriends and girlfriends. They start giving time to each other. Sex is the thing which most of the people want but nobody tell (generally) directly (unless she. He is sex maniac). Only God knows that what is in the mind of a girl or boy and God is not mercy less. He provided us with eye and body through which we can communicate indirectly. You can read mind of your loved one through her eyes or body language. As oral communication capacity is different for different individual, similarly the visual communication capability is also different. If a guy is able to send and receive message indirectly with high efficiency then he is romantic. If a girl is able to send and receive message indirectly with high efficiency then she is sexy. Lack of visual communication is dull. All others are in between dull and romantic/sexy. Society says if you are giving message directly then you are playboy or slut.

If both are able to communicate visually/ indirectly then mutual consent is made. Once these requirements are fulfilled then it is guy (in most cases) who proposes to the girl and even asks to be intimate. Therefore “I love you” should be followed by “I want to have sex with you”. Vice-versa is not allowed. This is not sex because of which I love you but this is love because for which I want to have sex with you. Sex is created to enjoy and grow closer in soul and spirit. The sexual act bonds people together with the deepest of roots, giving a sense of trust and love. When a woman and man love together they become one.

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Philosophy of Sex (Part 1 of 4)

Posted on September 19, 2011 by Sandy| Comments Off

Everybody is aware of the origin of sexual desire. Many are also aware of the things to do for getting sexual fulfillment. Then what is the hurdle for getting involved and having sex with someone? Reason can be many like fear, unwillingness, bad timing, insecurity, cultural mind make-up, bad place etc. Here religion, culture, society play a major role in deciding intensity of desire and inhibition/ suppression of desire. I am discussing sex, so I will not bring religion in the discussion although it influences a lot.

Sex is not a man-made activity. It is God who makes physique of male and female appropriate for sex. Sexual desire is affected mainly by body hormones. Major role is played by sex hormones like testosterone in male and oestrogen in female. Liking the other person is first requisite for getting closure. In childhood also boys gets attracted towards girl and vice versa. But their desire is only to spent time together. Their hormonal levels are low. Similarly sensual organ are under development. Once they grown up both hormonal and sense organs become active. They start getting sexual urges. They starts thinking their body should be loved by someone. Here society and culture play a major role. Sexual tension inside body starts building up. This is the origin for need of a body or girl. He/ she start looking for appropriate partner. The more compatible the person is with him/ her more likely is the selection. But this selection is only out of known candidates. Now society and culture play a major role here. If society doesn’t favor free sex then selection doesn’t mean sex. Now this is the beginning of fantasy and masturbation. Nature declare that you are matured enough to have sex but society doesn’t allow you since they think you are not experienced/ intelligent enough (at that moment) to think for who is better candidate for you. Society thinks that you don’t have high thinking capabilities at that moment. Society also feared that you are driven by physical attraction and sexual urge.

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Origin of sexual desire

Posted on September 19, 2011 by Sandy| Comments Off

Why two people think about having sex? The simple answer is to get pleasure. Now what is pleasure? If we talk scientifically then it is tumescence in all distensible parts of the body in both sexes with increases in heart beat and blood pressure. The distensible parts include penis, clitoris, some of the tissues near the entrance to the vagina, G Spot, the nipples of the breast and the side walls of the nose which contain a spongy erectile tissue. This tumescence also occurs in parts of the body which do not contain erectile tissue. The subtle, tingling sensations in specific part of body or complete body spasms add up the pleasure. Whatever is described above is all about the sex and orgasm. But now how to achieve maximum each time during sex is next question.

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How to get Sexual fulfillment

Posted on September 19, 2011 by Sandy| Comments Off

Two things are required that is must for sexual fulfillment – permission and time. Permission is allowing somebody to explore your beauty and assets to raise your sexuality to the highest. If anyone is not able to open up sufficiently then it stop other to apply all of its energy to make partner more satisfied. This creates a block in mind of partner and it stops applying all of his/her techniques. So if you are not sure don’t start. It’s not good to do half work. Boy/girl should permit each other to explore the things that are hidden for others. Enjoy your body, enjoy his body and allow each other to enjoy their bodies.

Lovemaking should not be done in hurry. Enough time to arouse and getting aroused ultimately helps to have better experience of sex.

But is it only permission and time which can make a sex great. No, even if you permitted your buddy to explore everything and giving him/her sufficient time is not guarantee for complete sexual fulfillment. It is generally believed that body should take the lead to arouse girl and do everything that is required for sex while girl are only receptive. But this is not only his job to bring you to sexual ecstasy. Girls should also allow her to open fully to sexual pleasure. Each (boy and girl) should take responsibilities for fulfilling their sexual desire. You should be consciously present/ stay at the moment. Deep emotional connection is required. Do whatever you want to do at the moment and allow him/ her also to do whatever he/she like. But beware of forcefully doing some objectionable activities. One should be aware of things to do during foreplay. In short it includes kissing, touching and of course listen each other.

Now nothing can stop you from getting sexual fulfillment.

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What is love?

Posted on September 19, 2011 by Sandy| Comments Off

How much you understand your beloved is the key of success of any relationship. Everything cannot be told. If you understand your love, you can read eyes and body language. If you cannot then you are just friends.

Second indicator of love is willingness to help. Unless the next person is spouse, one cannot/ will not ask for help on every topic. But if you understand her then you can see and feel that she needs help.

Next thing which is not part of love but it makes love stronger. You should believe your love and should give sufficient freedom. Loving someone doesn’t mean owning her. She is also a complete individual. Loving someone doen’t permits you to disliked her from the social circle.  She also has sufficient right to interact with variety of people/ friends around her.

Everybody’s priorities are different. Mentalities are also different. Many things which is not good may be correct from her point of view. These mentalities may be harmful for her.  You should guide her to suppress such mentality and thoughts.

Everybody has a personal boundary in which one separate different people. The unknown comes on the corner of the circle. And most loved one comes near to the center of circle. If she loves you most, she will keep you closer to the center and allow you to come closest and be intimate.

All requirements listed above is required for loving someone. If one or two of above mentioned requirements are missing then it simply means that there is a blockage in love. For example

1)      Only understanding: You are deep observer. You know how good the person is with whom you are talking with.

2)      Only help: You are good friends.

3)      Only guidance: You are good psychologist and helper/ friend.

4)      Only intimacy: You are in lust. Once get intimate you will need more. If the intimacy is not supplemented further then your relationship is over.

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Reasons behind extra-marital affairs

Posted on September 19, 2011 by Sandy| Comments Off

Extra-marital affair is the result of two things either designed or engineered. Now let us discuss both one by one.

Designed: If you really want to have an affair outside marriage. It is desire. The reason for origin of this desire can be very broad. The first one is un-satisfaction in sexual life.  Origin of this un-satisfaction also varies from person to person. Reason can be like wife got more involved with the kids and was too tired to have sex, she mayn’t want to have sex during pregnancy, she mayn’t want to be pregnant or she may have lost the interest in sex after childbirth. Most women also stop caring about their looks and figure which make them unattractive and less charming. Many women believe that the husbands have no choice but to just hang on to them. But this is not the case they starts looking forward for other possibility. This can be vice versa. Now he designs his world around him to make it possible. The known people around him having same or lower socially status are the best candidate. This can be wife’s friend, friend’s wife, relatives, secretary, neighbors etc. but generally younger one are the target. Secretary and girls with lower social status generally get involved for getting benefits.

Success rate is very high when other side is also married (both are married). This is because other side may also sexually unsatisfied or want to increase her self-esteem and pleasure. When both are unsatisfied the society and space is the only problem. Initial hurdle is to getting caught up.

Engineered: This case is come into play when opposite side is unsatisfied and she seduce other to get involved and start a relationship.

However in both cases the extra-marital affairs are mainly lust. If it converted to emotional then there are only three possible outcomes – divorce, unhappiness or compromise.

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Types of Orgasm

Posted on September 19, 2011 by Sandy| Comments Off

An orgasm is the feeling of pleasure. In female it can be described as a feeling of tingling sensations in one area of the body or complete body spasms with screaming, scratching and gasping. One even find it difficult to move, breathe and talk during orgasm. It may or may not include ejaculation which may be the part of orgasm.

There are eight types of female orgasms

  1. Clitoral
  2. Vaginal
  3. Anal
  4. G-Spot
  5. Thought
  6. Multiple
  7. Total body

A female can experience eight different types of orgasms. It is not necessary that every woman can experience all these types of orgasms. Women may experience some of these orgasms.

Clitoral orgasm: Clitoris is very sexually very sensitive area which contains equal or more number of nerves endings compared to man’s penis. Such high number of nerves gets bunched together in a very small area. On sexual arousal clitoris becomes flushed with blood making it swell and hard to the touch. It gives the feeling of tingling, throbbing or pulsating during orgasm.

Vaginal Orgasm: The cavity of vagina is not a highly sensitive area to most women until fully aroused. The vagina walls can be gorged with blood, becoming sensitive to fondling, deep pressure or different types of rhythmic or thrusting movements but most likely it is the result of clitoral and G-Spot stimulus. It may be the result of just having the excitement of having sex.

Anal Orgasm: Highly sensitive and responsive nerve endings are present in the anus. It can be stimulated like any other genital area for orgasmic sensations. Male and female both can experience the orgasm with interior anal stimulation which may not include ejaculation.

G-Spot Orgasm: G-Spot is an area of the tissue which surrounds the urethra tube. It is located just inside the top of the vagina. The tissue of G-spot is erectile in nature which can swell when a women is sexually aroused. Such stimulus can be evident from the exterior and interior of the vagina.

Mind/thought orgasm: Romantic talk can go wonders. It stimulates the brain even in the physical absence of partner. Body and sex organs can be stimulated over phone. It also prepare partner to have better sex.

Combination orgasm: The simultaneous occurrence of more than one of above orgasm is called combination orgasm. With skill one can please a woman with more than one orgasm at a time. For example clitoral, vaginal and G-Spot can be experienced together. Simultaneous use of hands, penis and mouth can help to achieve this goal.

Multiple orgasm: Anybody can experience more than one orgasm in a series. Experiencing orgasms one after another thought out night is called multiple orgasm. This purely depends on the condition of mind and person’s skill to achieve climax more than one times.

Total body orgasm: In this type of orgasm whole body feel the sensation of satisfaction. Electricity of satisfaction flows thought out the body. This is best one can get.

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Beauty and brain, final Question answer round of Miss Universe 2011

Posted on September 15, 2011 by Sandy| Comments Off

Miss universe: Miss Angola,
Question by Lea Salonga: If you could change one of your physical characteristics, which one would it be and why?

Miss Angola: Thank God I’m very well satisfied with the way that God created me and I wouldn’t change a thing. I consider myself a woman endowed with inner beauty, I have my principles, I have acquired many wonderful principles from my family and I plan to follow these through the rest of my life and now I want to give all of you a piece of advice: Respect one another.

Miss Universe 2011 - Leila Lopes

First Runner-up: Miss Ukraine Olesia Stefanko
Question by Amelia Vega: If you could trade lives with anyone in history, who whould it be and why?

Miss Ukraine: I simply live my life and I’m very satisfied with it. But if I did have the chance to trade positions with someone I think I would choose Cleopatra. I think she is a very powerful and strong woman who is very much worthy of respect. And I think a woman could also be a leader like Cleopatra.

Miss Ukraine 2011, Olesia Stefanko

Second Runner-up: Miss Brazil, Priscila Machado
Question by Helio Castroneves: What would you do to avoid fighting a war that you did not agree with it?

Miss Brazil: First of all I would explain to people that the premiere quality of human being is respect. And more war is not based on respect. It’s always based on misunderstanding, it’s always based on a lack of education. So I would tell this person that we should respect each other as human beings.

Miss Brazil 2011, Priscila Machado

Second Runner-up: Miss Philippines  Shamcey Supsup
Question by Vivica Fox: Would you change your religious beliefs to marry the person you love? Why and why not?

Miss Philippines: If I had to change my religious beliefs, I will not marry the person that I love because the first person that I love is God, who created me. And I have my faith, my principles, and this is what makes me who I am. And if that person loves me, he should love my God too.

Miss Philippines 2011, Shamcey Supsup

Third Runner-up: Miss China 
Question by Isabeli Fontana: Nude beaches are common in some parts of the world. Is public nudity appropriate or inappropriate and why?

Miss China: Every country has its rules and regulations and every country has their own habbits as well. We should respect them and be more understanding.

Miss China 2011, ZiLin Luo

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